It has been the most incredible week of my life. I had so much resistance to ‘baring my soul’ and revealing whom I truly am all about with the first blog, because I was afraid people will judge me and discover that I am different. But guess what? I AM. It is known as soul calling, grace, reverence, rebirth, LOVE, synchronicity, divine intervention, shift in resonance, celestial alignment, whatever it is, I have found it within me and I am in love with LIFE. It seems that life is in love with me too, 3am blogging after the baby wakes and cant get back to sleep. If this keeps up you will see me with packed on concealer in September.
I am a perfectionist, have always been. But now I’m converted into the perfection camp. Firstly, what is the difference? Perfectionism is this constructed idea that we need to have everything looking or appearing in order, just right. Yet the paradox is that everything is perfect as it is anyway. The truth is that there is an underlying innate order and perfection within everything and everyone. So when I used to spend hours getting ready to go out, trying so hard to co-ordinate every detail, I would get stuck and frustrated within myself because in my mind I could never look good enough or be satisfied with my image. Even to the point of almost just giving up and not going anywhere.
And that is the flaw with perfectionism, it’s a human made contrived idea of image where we are told how to look by someone else. We as women, and men also use this ideal image in the beauty and fashion magazines as a benchmark to aspire to (more on that later).
Yet perfection needs no benchmarks nor standards in order for it to be appreciated, it just is an inherent order of the flow of life. I would naturally gravitate towards colours that make me feel good inside and out, so why wouldn’t I wear them? Fashion and belonging. We have been led away from trusting our own instincts and replaced it with a false sense of ‘fitting in’ and belonging to the consensus. If we fully trusted in ourselves 100% then we would feel a deep sense of belonging. For example, I have never felt such a sense of belonging and trust since beginning this blogging process, I am the happiest, chirpiest and bounciest I have been since childhood. Why? Because I am totally aligned with my dream and purpose. That doesn’t mean im throwing out my wardrobe either! I’m just more conscious about what makes me feel good.
So therein lies the truth about perfection, if you trust in your own instincts about what you should wear because it makes you feel good inside and out according to your mood, its sort of a tailor self made fashion statement, which gives you permission to be more of who you are and allows you to tune in to your authenticity, therefore are more able to shine your own light on the world. And that is the order of perfection, everyone being their unique selves sharing an authentic experience together instead of a forced, and sometimes uncomfortable image that just doesn’t fit. With too many perfectionists together trying to stand out and be different, and act different, but they are all just the same which is ironic. (I used to be one!)
As of today make a commitment to begin dressing in clothes that make you feel good inside and out, whatever works for you. Wear your secret favorite perfume, do your hair and make-up the way you feel. Then do two things;
#1 Begin to notice how you feel.
#2 Notice how you feel about other people noticing you being different (comments on blog welcome!)
It takes so much more energy when we are trying to make something happen that is not in sync with what we are about, when we let go and allow the natural flow of who we are to be expressed there is a perfection, ease and elegance, and that you can not buy or copy.
“When a woman falls in love with the magnificence if who she is inside and out, so does the rest of the world”
Love light and beauty,
Nicole
